Recently for dental care which she hasn't had in two years. Help! She has vascular dementia and severe bilateral knee arthritis which makes it painful for her walk. She starts whining the minute she gets out of bed and it is enough to send me through the roof. She does live with me and I mostly just try to encourage her as arguing or rationalizing gets me nowhere. But I really don't know what to do to get her to these appointments that she needs without ordering her and making her cry.