I take care on my mother in law at great lose to my husband's business. I am POA for my mother in law, so i started to take a salary to recoop some of the lose. The brothers freaked and so did my mother in law ( very loudly and very rudely)and demanded I stop taking the money.(so i stopped) They all insist I do it for free, but I can't. They said that they found a way to help her... Se has mild dimentia so she thinks she can do things and can't. The biggest thing she won't do is bath. I tried to explain that the 5 days a week I spend with her is for love but the bathing i have to charge for. Back to the help they found for her... they told me, and, she told me she could bath herself. One of my brother in laws would take her once a week to get her hair done. Well two weeks after "the meeting" No hair done, no bath. So I went back to the routine...by and by....I try to bath her twice a week...she refuses. She lives alone in a house I remodeled for her after a flood, and doesn't drive she has no friends and doesn't want any stangers in the house.. So I do everything...It would be easier to have her live with us but I have a 800 sqft house with two teenagers, myself and my husband. There is simply no room, her house is bigger...I'm not moving...I can't leave her to fend for herself. The one son takes her on holidays(lives out of state) and other visits once a week and takes her to breakfast (with her about an hour or less). I don't know what to do. In the last "meeting" One of the brothers threatened to "hurt us so deeply we will never recover".....unfortunely that is already happening a major guilt factor is i am so busy trying to do everything with out help i haven't had a chance to document all that i've done it's all snowballing out of control,,,actually sending this thread is setting me back even further, but mentally I'm useless at this point... got any advise?