She refused any tests and so no idea how far cancer might have spread. The biggest issue, and I think it has to do with the dementia, is her anger at being assisted at the toilet and, when she is unable to walk on her own, at being changed. She screams and fights with the caregiver and anybody else who is trying to touch her, yet she must have assistance with this. My father (also 94) is understandably upset and angry at the caregivers. She will trust him most of the time but he cannot be there for her all the time. He accuses everybody of mistreating her. Understandably, she cannot be allowed to sit in urine or feces but it breaks my heart to hear her angry complaints. Is this normal in dementia patients? Any ideas? Thanks a million.