My mother is becoming someone that I don't know anymore. The last few years her anxiety or depression has reached the level where I just don't know what to do anymore. She refuses to seek any type of help or medication. She gave my dad an ultimatum to move out of the family home and into an apartment in the city (instead of moving into a Senior's home because she didn't like any of the ones they could afford). All this while my father who is struggling through chronic heart failure, kidney failure, sleep apnea and is barely able to walk anymore, she got him to move. The constant drama between them, the screaming and yelling and then my mother's uncontrollable rage and crying fits have me at my wits end. My husband and I moved to my parent's basement so I could help take care of them (5 years). Now that they have moved out (a month now) I was hoping she would be happy but she's not. She will often storm out the door and disappear for hours and hours. Both my parents constantly threaten each other to leave but they never do.
How can I help her to get help when she won't listen. She is adamant about not taking any type of medication or seeing a professional.