My mother is 88 and lives independently in an apartment since her sister died two years ago. Although I take her out twice a week and she goes to church on Sunday, she complains about everything: her neighbors, being alone, being bored, and has herself with a myriad of dire ailments. Two doctors have told her that she is in good health, but needs to work on her anxiety. She doesn't take the medication they prescribe, saying they don't know anything about medications. Instead, she keeps looking for "fixes," like calling a nun to give her communion (when I could), having someone come in to clean (then abandons it), signing up to go to the senior center for lunch, then complains everyone is in "cliques." If I try to give her any suggestions, she just cuts me off, but tries to imply that something is seriously wrong with her, and I need to "realize that she needs more help." I work from home, my husband is retired, and this nonsense is really dragging me down. If she wanted to get out more, she has a bus at her apartment, a cab she could take anywhere in town, and a trusted neighbor of mine who is willing to come at least one other day of the week. We took her to my son's wedding in PA for the weekend a few weeks ago, but instead of enjoying herself, she got herself into a snit over what she perceived as not being "greeted properly" by some of our nieces. It was a stress just having her there because she looked mad and acted terrible the entire weekend. I don't want to be unkind, but she is such a downer to be around now, I can't wait to go home or get off the phone when I call her on the days we're not out. She is a narcissist, and all my life she has wanted everyone else to fix the problems she creates. I refuse to give in to giving her more of my time when she is 1. so ungrateful, and 2. she is creating issues to get attention. My thought is to just listen and start saying, "I don't know what to tell you" and staying on course. I would appreciate any input. Thank you.