Won't listen to me, screams and rants while I try to speak to her. Help! Mom has been in the hospital for a month, came home 3 days ago . mom is a hoarder with a filthy home i had to live in for the month she was hospitalized. i have never been able to understand this behavior, how she can live in this awful place, it was not like this when i was growing up. i did not realize the extant of the problem until i began to clean it up and trying to make it livable and safe for her. i now know how big of mistake this was until 3 days ago. when she walked into the house the screaming,ranting and accusations began and have not stopped for a minute i soon realized had made a gigantic mistake in trying to clean or alter the muck and mess in any way. why i did not see the blatant problems this would cause is beyond me. they problems are so obvious. i took control of her house without her permission and changed things or as she puts it "destroyed her home" this was not my intention. i thought i was helping her by trying to clean and organize the place.i have sincerely apologized for my mistakes and i have been trying to have a conversation with her and it has proved to be utterly impossible.she will not engage in any .civil discussion with me about any subject. it is if i am invisible. . she is refusing any type of help, saying she does not need it and does not want strangers in the house. her language towards me is painful and abusive I am exhausted. any suggestions ? i can;t get through to her --neither can anyone else.