Mom has complained of other attacks and wasn't believed but this time it was on video so they have to believer her. I have been the only one who takes her seriously and notified my sisters who are co-POA's via e-mail what Mom had told me. I then contacted Adult Protective services and made a report. So for the moment Mom is safe, at least that is what I have been told. I want her out of there! I have 4500 characters left so I need help and every path I take has been wrong.
A little over three years ago my mom had a stroke then a year later Renal failure and then the following year her heart went into A-fib.. Mom has four daughters all different in many ways, I am retired and was the one who Mom could talk to and who had the time to help her out. My older sister lives in Louisiana, I am three years younger than she; six years later another sister who just retired and was a newlywed. The youngest sister is a busy school teacher with a family. Family very dysfunctional with an abusive father and combative husband who passed away in 1997 and suffered from life long alcoholism. My older sister and I feared by dad as my mom did witnessing all the abuse. The little sisters were angry at my Mom for finally leaving him because it disrupted their life. Mom has favored the youngest who followed in my fathers addictive footsteps. If you were to observe them interact with my mothers you might conclude that they don't like her. They yell at her and are over all nasty to her. So after three years I am falling apart and beg my two little sisters for help. They were very angry at me for they would have to alter their lives to accommodate her. The youngest said she would take Mom and I had to insist that she come to get not send her teen aged son for there was instructions and medications and appointments. Well she came to get mom, first thing she asked was were was moms pain medications. Mom had been on narcotic pain meds for her neck for 15 years and she over the last year slowly stopped taking them with the help of a anxiety medication and anti depressant and only had 4 pills left. She was doing quite well and her heart doctor was to shock her heart back into rhythm and she would be good as new. Once her blood was thinned and she was strong enough she would be ready. Last check he was ready to do the procedure but her lungs didn't sound right, he though she might have pneumonia. A chest xray and 30 days and she would be ready. With that my sister took her away. Mom weighed 201 September 2014 which was heavy for mom withdrawing from the narcotics caused a terrible sweet tooth. She was looking healthy and happy, Mom went with my sister early February 2015 and that is when the abuse started. The sister that took her and I don't agree on most things so I stood back and allowed them to take over. It would have impossible to share the responsibility. She had a lot of family help, her husband, her son in his early 20s and a daughter in 9th grade. I let go and agreed to give her daughter a ride one a week and I could see mom from the street. I wasn't allowed in to their house with out an invitation but I could see Mom in a chair watching tv. When asked they said she was fine. What I didn't know was that the took her put her in that chair and left her there. My older sister was called the first of May and was told she better get her cause mom didn't have long, they were calling hospice. Sister came as soon as she could and found mom in a very weak state. The medical records that I could get from my doctor showed that she weighed 154 lbs, March 23, nearly a 50 lb loss she could barely walk and talk, there was little food to eat and no one would buy food. My older sister did what she could got mom to eat a little every few hours. So my three sisters were trying to figure out what to do and they decided to put her in a home. Older sister went home and the two younger ones found a place. The didn't tell them moms health conditions, according to the nurse I spoke to had no idea mom had had some serious health issues...They stuck her there it has been a fight since. My falling cutting her head open stitches needed, she continued to fall, of course out of sight I was the only one she could contact by phone. Of course they now have POA and tricked her into signing it she thought she was signing a living will. She called me crying they had taken her antidepressant away that she has taken over 20 years she had complained to my older sister she didn't feel right. Now histerical I went to her for the caregivers would only tell her the doctor ordered it. I asked them to check the records they did and sure enough they had stopped the wrong medication. It was a blood thinner that dr changed and they stopped the wrong one.....since then Mom says she has been attacked 3 times no video to prove lots of bruises..and I have been restricted for abusing my Mom based on a lie...oh gosh I'm out of char
My mother is in an assisted living facility, she was attacked by the caregiver in the middle of the night, I'm not POA, what can to do?