My mother who has dementia, and my Step-dad who has dementia are both 92. I live across the street from them. Here is my issue. My mother and I have had a horrible relationship ever since I was abour 12. I am an only child. My mother AND Step-father will say the meanest, nastiest things to me. They are very very hurtful words, and it does cut me to the bone. I've been told to consider the situation and realize that they are old and are just this way "to me." I cannot accept this behavior. It is abuse I think! They are not this way to other people. In fact they are sickening sweet to other people and just the opposite to me. My mother has a DNR, however I do not have a copy of it and there isn't one posted in her home. My mother is in rehab right now and so talking to her about this is like pulling teeth. So I told my Step-Dad that I needed a copy of this. He told me that 'I was trying to snuff my mother out'. What a horrible thing to say. If anyone else talked to me the way they do and abused me verbally like they do I wouldn't have anything to do with them!!!!