My mother is verbally and mentally abusive. I've been in therapy for 20 years but have managed to keep her in my life until recently. She starting verbally abusing my son with Asperger's and I couldn't allow it to continue. So I basically told her that if she cannot respect my son, she cannot continue to visit. Instead of trying to change, she said "I can't help it" and I haven't seen her since.
Now, she is 83 years old. She has heart disease, kidney disease and high blood pressure. She had aortic aneurysm repaired 9 years ago. She has suffered mini strokes and a heart attack and not told anyone. She refuses to take any medication the doctor prescribes her. She hates everyone and has alienated her other grand children and great grand children.She acts as if they don't exist. The brother that she lives next door to packed up and moved in August in one day. One brother lives about 5 hours away and the youngest brother is the only one left close and she lies to him about everything.
I am finally making progress in my therapy and protecting my family against this verbal abuse is my number one priority.
With this being said. There's no one to look in on her except me and my brother that live close. I know she needs care and company, but at this time, I cannot, for my own health, get involved. She has no friends. Are there any resources out there to have someone look in on her? I feel very guilty for not being there to help her. Has anyone had this experience?