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Pure d*mn stubborness! Lol
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Interesting...My 91 year old Mother is mean, nasty and rude to anyone who tries to help her. She can get the best of the best and still she complains, complains and complains. She is a total mal-content. I say interesting because when she gets real mean her eyes get bluer and her gray hair gets prettier. It looks like her wrinkles disappear. She seems to feed on being pure nasty and having no one like to be around her. Has anyone noticed this with their love ones? I use the term loved ones loosely.
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How can your oldest sister be older than your mother? Doen't make sense!
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I read an article a few years ago that said that the most ornery hospital patients actually got well quicker than the ones who were the 'nice patients.' Go figure!
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fost40, yes I think God knows what He's doing. We are being blessed whether we know it or not. Still is very trying.
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I think you are right about the good die young. A 42 yrs old mother of three good person recently dropped dead of a heartattack unexpectedly. I know god has a plan but does he ever think about those that have to deal with these difficult folks?!
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Just seems like they live longer because every minute is a trial! ;-)

But, there is something about stubbornness...and determination...that might make people live longer. However, I have to believe that the Lord makes the end of life decisions...and there may be something to to the "only the good die young" theory. ..that God gives you more time so that you may be redeemed.
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Because "only the good dye young" . . .
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Thanks theirdaughter for your response. My patience is wearing thin but I hope that I am on the homestretch. I am single and look forward to being free from the burden. I am not sure of ever marrying because I dont want to EVER be a caregiver to noone else but me. I hope that I will live longer but often feel that I might not make it. I have sisters and a brother that helps out. My other brother no longer deals with my mother because of her over bearing personality. I appreciate the input from everyone.
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As you know I deal with a difficult father 95 and my husband with a difficult uncle 101. I respect them both for their work ethic and the uncle participated on D-Day. But, they take no joy from life as it stands today. I have been to several funerals over the holidays sadly, one for a jovial senior man who was always caring and kind. Another for a 13 year old boy tragically taken from an asthma attack. I think back a decade to a friend who lost a brave battle with cancer leaving 2 very young children.

I realize that God has a plan for us all, but in reviewing those last few funerals, life would be so much more fair if the ones who are extremely old and miserable could just give a few of their years to the folks who have to leave us too soon.
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I agree with Jessie, it just seems that way. I have a great uncle who is 96, has a great sense of humor and still goes dancing with his younger (mid 80's) girlfriend. My maternal grandfather and paternal grandmother who both lived into their 90's were sweet and pleasant to be around until the end. My 89 year old mother with dementia is a royal pain. It seems like I have been dealing with her for at least 100 years.
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These are some of the best answers on this thread! All, very true, and just very real!
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Both my LOVELY grandmothers lived into their 90's. They were amazing. They'd call ME every week, if I didn't call them first, they cared about me and my life and often invited me to bring the kids over "anytime". I am so grateful my kids had that experience b/c both of the their grandmothers wanted little to nothing to do with them.
It DOES seem like the meanest people live forever. My uncle died at 88 and there were 15 people at his funeral. And all 15 kind of HAD to be there. He'd been a schoolteacher and a school counselor--not ONE past student came to "pay respects". Because he was a horrible, horrible man. I'll never understand this phenomena, never.
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Wow, that is old! You have to be on the home stretch!! My dad died just before turning 88. He was in the hospital for a week, and I sat with him every day. Honestly, I did feel bad for him (and I loved him) even though he annoyed the hell out of me for the 10 previous years. After a week in the hospital (everyone thought he was dying), he was transferred to a nursing home. I still remember the shock when they called me two days later to say he was in the dining room having breakfast with the group!!!

But, a couple of days later he did die. It sure seemed to drag out, and it was hard to watch. There are some things I actually miss about him, but it's also REALLY nice to have my life back. He was clingy, rude, and totally oblivious. He put a huge strain on my marriage.

My mom was older, and she lived another two years to 95. She was very sweet most of the time, and had always been kind and considerate. But she had Alzheimer's and was starting to be difficult at times. It's good that she's gone, but I miss her a lot.

Just do your best to take care of yourself so you outlive them and have enough good years to enjoy it!
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Thanks everyone for your responses
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My sympathies, sincerely. The mean people live so long because they are being given EVERY opportunity to mend their ways. The rest don't need that opportunity. They already made it! Just come to this site and get a hug. ((((Hug)))
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Mom just turned 101. She is now in a nursing home and her dementia and extreme old age has pretty much mellowed her. She was never mean but she was always STUBBORN! She also refused to accept she was aging and fought it every step of the way. Her doctor said being stubborn and having such a strong will to live is why she has lived so long. (of course genetics also play a part because she never gets sick and has nothing wrong with her)
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Because we take so good care of them 😊
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God won't take them and the Devil won't have them.
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I don't know if they actually do live longer. It just seems that way.
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Because they are so well preserved by being full of vinegar all the time.
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My aunt (by marriage) had this to say about her long-lived mother: she was too mean to die!
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The 99 y/o one has stuck around this long probably because she didn't have any children to wear her out. She's managed to take care of herself while getting a kick out of pi__ing everybody else off along the way. And still does it.

Annoyingly resilient, aren't they? Just ask them what the secret to their longevity is. Bet you they have a lot of stories to tell, and you'll see them in a whole different light after they're done. If you can't beat 'em ...
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