Would it be morbid to let my terminally ill Mother pass away in my bed?

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I can care for easier at my house. But can I sleep in my bed again? My Mother has only a couple weeks left and my sister and I want to give her all the love and care while we still can. My husband has agreed to bring her home and give her our bed. I think I will be ok with it. Has anyone else had this experience and been able to sleep soundly in their bed again after knowing your mother passed away in it?

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No its not morbid. If that's what you want- do it. I think its beautiful for your family to give her such a gift. I do suggest a vinyl bed mattress cover or plan on buying a new mattress. When our body ceases, bodily fluids will exit. Fact of death.
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I was thinking the exact same thing as Maggie, a hospital bed is much easier when taking care of a bed bound person. I had 1 hospital bed and received another from hospuce, pushed them both together so I could lay beside mom and she could see me better. I don't know how she felt but it made me feel better 😊. Mom had on a diaper when she died and a pad under her and stopped eating 2 weeks prior so there really wasn't any mess. I put a twin memory foam mattress on hospital bed and had no problem sleeping in it later. If it doesn't bother you then go for it.
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If mom is on hospice, which she should be if she has only a couple of weeks left, have the hospice doctor (or her regular doctor) prescribe a hospital bed. Take your bed apart, lean the mattress and box springs against the wall, and set up the hospital bed in your room. Medicare will pay for the bed. A hospital bed will make it MUCH easier to care for mom, and you won't have the dilemma of her passing in your bed.

God bless you for giving your mom AND yourself this final gift. You will always be glad.
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I don't think its morbid but I would probably want to clean the room, mattress etc. before I slept there. People give off odors sometimes when they die. Often release their bowels etc. Aesthetically speaking I wouldn't want to. But I think spiritually or mentally there isn't anything wrong with it.
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I think it all depends on the person. My sig other's wife died in the hospital, but he never could sleep in their bedroom again, he used the guest room.
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My aunt passed away at her home when she was receiving hospice care. When I went for her funeral, my cousins offered us her bedroom. I had no problem sleeping in her bed and even felt closer to her. I loved being in her room and I knew my cousins spent their last moments loving and caring for her in that room. The love was still there.
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Actually, I think this could be considered an act of love, not morbidity. Death is inevitable, but sharing your mother's last weeks as you're suggesting to me shows a real extension of daughterly love. It may even provide her comfort to be sleeping in your bed.

As to your sleeping in it again, I think you could think of it as the means by which you were able to express to her your love during these last days. I think it could have a special meaning after that.

When I had to stay in my sister's home for some time after she died, I slept in her bed. It made me feel closer to her. But, after all, it's just a bed. It's the bonds that are important.

But I am sorry to learn that your mother is terminally ill and wish you and your family peace and solace during these times.
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My aunt passed away on my mother's couch. She could not sit on it. Some of the messier parts of a patient's final hours may render mattress unusable due to hazardous materials left in fabric. I could not do it.
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