My husband and I married 6 years ago after dating for nearly 4 years. We'd each been married; he has two children from his first marriage and I have one child. He had an awful short lived marriage but it appears that post divorce only made the already bad relationship worse between his then minor children and ex-wife who only wanted money and blaming. When I came into the picture we all got along and for a while things seemed "harmonious". I am significantly younger and wanted a serious relationship and a role model and friend for my daughter. I also wanted a family of my own and a blended family would give me my hearts desire although a second biological child would have been a blessing. Soon after we married (2 months to be exact) the ex pulled kids out if school, disallowed the child sharing and my husband's despair led him to fight for his rights in court. In the meantime, he fought and yelled at me for anything. He made me quit my career and financially dis obligated himself because I signed a prenuptial agreement. I used my savings to live off of and care for my self and daughter. I was so afraid of my decision to marry him and how this would affect my little girl that I contemplated leaving him. He then asked me to have a child of our union only to scold me for "getting pregnant" to sire a child. I had a miscarriage after an altercation. I begged him to seek treatment of a diagnosis as he appeared volatile, forgetful, angry, and unstable. So soon into the marriage I was ashamed to let my family now anything was wrong. The problems with his kids and family grew more and more out if control and his behavior just became worse each day. He lost friends, poorly managed his company and verbally abused me day and night. I begged him one day before going to an attorney to go to a doctor - perhaps someone new for a diagnosis. I told him I would file for divorce. Together we saw a physician - and after saying my husband was fine and I needed counseling I asked him to perform the mini mental status test -my husband failed it! He has early onset Alzheimer's. The family accuses me of everything as he was able to make me his poa and trustee. I ended up running the business but because of the prenup I do not have any other financial support than the salary. I am the caregiver, provider, and responsible for even his mother. All I wanted was to have a child form a union- we didn't marry by church because he didn't even want a celebration. I feel used and alone. He is 58 and doesn't know the difference in me- still abuses and caregivers don't know how to help. My child is 15 and I worry about the manner in which this abuse will affect her. The attorneys tell me to live a separate life. How can I? I feel morally wrong though I know that when I develop cancer (he gave me hpv) and I developed cells, his funds will not provide care for me as his health needs come first. To all those of you who will judge me, think about it. What if the shoe was on the other foot? Is it unjust for me to want to remain loyal as in his care and POA (given his family dynamic) but divorced instead? By the way, I am 37.