My MIL Sally, keeps telling me that she wants to take care of her own money. This turns into arguments. Sally lives with me and my husband. She has $180 in her tiny little purse that she keeps on her body inside her bra so no one will steal it. She keeps putting it somewhere, losing it, then accusing me of stealing her money. That leads to I want my checkbook, I want my debit card, I want all my money, you’re stealing from me.
Every month her SSI check goes into her account, I simply transferred into my account and paid bills with it. Sally is incapable of handling money. If I show her her bank statement, she will see that all her money is going in and then automatically going out on that same day and then of course the “you’re stealing all my money” argument started over again. The money is basically used to pay mortgage insurance, taxes, food, etc. I tried to explain to her that I’m not buying diamonds, we’re not taking trips to Vegas, we’re not flagrantly spending all your money.
My husband and I had to buy a house to accommodate Sally, so she and her other son Billy, who is mentally disabled come live with us. We emptied our 401k accts to get a down payment for this home. We NEED her $ to help pay for this home. She is belligerent and nasty when the subject of $ comes up. I simply just leave the room when I know that she is going to start another conversation about money. BTW: I am durable POA, so I’m good there.
Any other suggestions?