Mom has been in a very nice memory care facility just over a year, in Texas. I am the only caregiver, and I live with my family in Maryland. She was adamant about not moving up here; I cannot move down there. Even if living with me was an option, her care requires 24 hour professionals now, which I obviously cannot give. She is pretty mobile still, but her anger, which she has always had, is now "unleashed" with her advanced dementia. She has been on a number of medications, mood stabilizers, anti depressants and anti anxiety meds, none of which have a lasting effect (Risperdole previously and Depakote now). She spent 2 weeks last month in a psychiatric/senior behavior unit to see what they could do with her, which is why she is now on Depakote (she also had a dementia-related seizure while there - Depakote is a mood stabilizer and anti-seizure med)
Staff is concerned for the safety of the other residents at this point. I have no idea what kind of facility would take her, and if I have to move here, I don't want to do it again! She also has a dnr, and is currently admitted to Hospice/Palliative Care, because her quality of life is diminishing so quickly.
What kind of facility can I move her to without fear of her having to move again? She's not quite ready for the immobile life of a skilled nursing home. (this is the worst part of Alzheimers - the mind is gone, but the feet and fists still work). My dad was caring for her until his stroke last year, which is when I had to move her into the facility. Dad died in October. I have a brother, also living in a nursing home with brain damage in Texas. I am all mom has left. No other relatives to help.