My mom had a stroke and she is very narcissistic. She is also able to be manipulated VERY easily. She is paralyzed on half of her body, so she is in a full time nursing home (I visit with my kids every Sun). My mom's social security check covers the nursing home and we have an additional $7.00 left over for any other added expenses. I am really not kidding about this. I wish it was more. This usually gets eaten quickly in a month, and I spend MY money on other things that her check won't cover. (Candy - which started disappearing soon as the roommate moved in) (Special toothbrush that keeps going missing, and my mother needs a full mouth extraction...that medicaid/medicare does NOT cover) (Haircuts/Nailtrims) (Orajel for her teeth) (Cold sore medication) (Random prescription) You name it, I've had to shell out MY money for it.
This new roommate moved in about a month or so ago. She is a recovering drug addict. She seems fairly normal, until you step inside the room. I have had more conversations with this woman about how she is supposedly a pseudo-daughter to my mom, and how I should be spending ALL of my mom's extra money on things such as: pizza for all of the nurses, pizza for just the room, jimmy john's....etc. I have a feeling like she even ate the piece of homemade cake I made my mom for Mother's Day too. My usualy response is to explain or say: "I will look into it"
Most the time I try to explain my mom's financial situation, and that I will look into doing something nice for her. But, I had to stop even spending the $50.00 on candy for my mom as it was suddenly disappearing into probably the roommate's mouth. The roommate comes up with excuses for my reasons where the money went. "She hasn't had her hair done in a while." "She can get a free toothbrush" "She hasn't had candy in a really long time, I've never seen it!"
I'm tired of trying to talk to this woman about my mom's money! I just had to shell out $126.00 to a dentist for a dental appointment NOT covered. That is MY money. I am paying out of pocket for that. I work 3 jobs to try to support my family AND my mom's whims...but I've had it with this woman!!!
What can I do to get this to stop? It's none of her business how and where my mom's money is going. I've talked to some of the nurses and the social workers, but we are all in agreement that the roommate is good for my mom's loneliness. I am just angry at how this woman treats me, and how she thinks my mom has magical money floating around!
PS. This happens EVERY time I visit. She has said several times my mom should have $200 extra a MONTH. IN WHAT WORLD?!