I have been taking care of Mom, my Dad passed in 2011 and she declined quite a bit.I have a half brother, Jay, who is 48 years old and is on disability for mental issues. He has borrowed a lot of money and taken advantage of Mom to the tune of $40,000. She co-signed for him on his house as he went through a divorce. He started drinking and his marriage ended and he has twins and lost visitation as he beat up his younger brother over being POA. He has physically abused me 3 times. All because he wants more money from Mom. My Mom has dementia and has gotten worst. The Memory Clinic says she is fine..My brother Jay was court ordered into a Mental Facility last January and just got out. He is persuading my Mom in devious ways to give him POA. He has no money and no car, and he is late on taxes on his home which Mom is responsible. He convinced her to go to a lawyer and try to get POA , She did not remember going to the lawyer later in the day. When I found out as his x-wife told me he called her and bragged that he was getting POA, she thought it was wrong as she knows I have been taking care of Mom real good and not taking money,(I finally had to put Mom in assisted living last Sept) before that I had been 24/7. Anyway , that did not work as I told Mom what she did and she called the lawyer and said no she did not want Jay to be POA. Now my brother told his x-wife that he was getting a restraining order on me , to keep me away from Mom's house next door which I am fixing up to sell. He is so devious it is unbelievable. He is greedy and needs to remove me to get to Mom's funds,It is a definite sink or swim for him. Last Sunday for the third time he used physical force on me. I walked into Mom's assisted living 2 room studio, Jay hid behind a wall I walked in and he took both hands and pushed me on the floor on my back, I lost my breath and when I finally got it .,I was crying and my right elbow was injured ans d my left hand, I got up and said "You can not keep using physical force on me" he said " I didn't nobody saw it". ( Mom was sleeping in her bed and at that angle could not see). I asked him if he was trying to kill me and he said :"Yes Maybe". I ran down to the Main office crying and asked them to call the police, they sent up their security man who asked Jay to leave and Jay said no, The police came and Jay ended up in jail charged with domestic violence, I was at the police station for awhile and a restraining order was put on Jay. He was out the next day . Then the place Mom lives at put a no trespass on both of us. I have talked to the management and they are talking with Mom and I should beable to go see her on Monday, Mom does not want Jay to come up . She told them. Jay has called her on the phone and starting to brainwash her again. He needs $$$$ right away,
Mom has an Elder Attorney, but he claims he cannot do anything for me. I need my own lawyer. This is crazy, Jay can not take care of himself, just got out of a Mental Facility, behind on bills as he blows money foolishly. What can I do? It's about Mom's money but she is easily lead then forgets. I have a lot of responsibility being POA for Mom, it is a job. Jay is not right in his thinking and will lose his house if he can not get Mom to give him power or money. He is exploiting her and I went to the court office and filed an exploitation on her behalf and they refused to put a restraining order on him to stay away from Mom. I need to go for guardianship and I will but in the mean time, he is planning his moves and calling her and trying to obtain POA. This is killing me as Mom will have nothing if he has his way.. What should I do to put an emergency stop on this while I get a lawyer for Guardianship??? I need help now!!! Mom forgets so much and has depression and sleeps the majority of the day and this is not helping, and no Adult Protection Service will do nothing as they say she allows it. Any fast suggestions???????