My mother has been living with my husband and I for 2 years. Her personal hygiene is just awful. Her not changing her wet underwear is the worst. I know I sound like a broken record to her, but I do care about good hygiene. Showering is also a problem, I have to ask all the time. I got rid of her underwear and bought underwear that has a bladder pad and panties that are nice looking as well. She does not want to change them after they get wet, then will let them dry and put them back on, if I don't catch it. I am getting pretty good about that though.