I have an older brother who I have been trying to get to take mom just for a weekend to give my husband and myself a break. He just doesn't get it. Every time he says he will take her something always comes up and he can't do it. He finally took her last weekend and I was thrilled to have some time with my husband. It didn't turn out the way I was hoping. My husband informed me that he just can't deal with my mom being with us any longer. I know it has been hard on him. It seems like every time a family member needs help it is always me that has to take care of them. When my dad got cancer and had to go to chemotherapy he stayed with us for 2 months because we lived closer to the hospital and that way he would not have to drive. When my brother lost his apartment he stayed with us for 2 years. And finally I told him he had to either find some where else to live or move in with my parents. Mom lived with us for 2 years and she was just a miserable person. This is before the dementia started. Now she is living with us again. I just don't know what to do. My husband has been a huge help through all of this but I don't want my marriage to suffer because of this. I can't afford to find another place for her to live as she has no assets at all. I am applying for Aid and Attendance for her but that takes a lot of time (that's what I have heard). My husband wants my brother to take her but he refuses because he said he has to work too. I need someone else's outlook on this. Please help.