My mom incontinent and immobile, was very happy at the NH #1 she was in. She was active, knew everyone, on committees and busy! We were promised by the manager that if she paid down all her assets there, she would be able to stay in the same private room for as long as she lived/wanted. Great! We liked the place, and so did mom. She paid down all of her money there and went on medicaid. A few months afterward, we were told she had to leave because the NH was switching over to a different type of care.
She has dementia that becomes worse every time she is moved and this move proved to be very disturbing for her. Her dementia got very bad from the move. She hates where she is, is afraid, is treated poorly, and we, her family do not have anything good to say about them either. Because the new NH did nothing to get her Social Security transferred to their address, and help with a medicaid review, we were held up with transferring her out.
We are in the process of getting her out of this horrible place now. I also called an Ombudsman to look into her situation there because they lost all her belongings when she arrived, and never told us. When questioned, they said they have a witness stating that my brother carried out boxes of her belongings. This is NOT true. She also developed Sepsis from a wound after falling. They decided not to take her to a wound care center because it was out of network under her supplemental insurance. I was told this when I called the wound care center to ask why she didn’t get there. The NH said the center cancelled the appointment on them because they were out of network. Mom needed surgery and was in the hospital for almost two weeks. In the hospital, we found out from the doctor that she was on many different types of sedatives, which explains why she sounded drunk, and in a stupor all the time.
We will move her soon. I am afraid though, because these moves are detrimental to her.
I don’t understand how a NH#1 can take every cent you have and then tell you to leave because they are switching to a different type of care. Is this common? I am sick with the thought that she will be happy at the next place we move her to next week and possibly be asked to move yet again. To see her decline because of moving, is heart breaking.