She's making herself the victim. Several months ago, my father (82) had a seizure while driving my mother. It was largely due to a meningioma which was subsequently removed. He needed over 100 days in a rehab facility to regain the ability to walk. He still needs a walker and has difficulty standing up from a sitting position and needs to wear a diaper. He is now back at home with my mother (76) who is having a very difficult time adjusting. She has never been diagnosed but I think she is OCD and while she is doing what she needs to care for my father she is constantly yelling at him that he probably belongs in a facility and is, in no way encouraging, when it comes to his recovery. Her concerns for the disorder in the house almost equal and sometimes outweigh her concerns for my father. He is a very stubborn man and does try to do more than he should which does not help matters. My two siblings and I are doing everything we can to try to keep the peace but it is not a good situation. Any suggestions? Can give more details if needed.