She won't even acknowledge me in a store, except snicker with my sister. Haven't talked to mom for almost 3 yrs. She doesn't want to talk to me and when we see each other in a store, she makes rude comments to my sister who adds fuel to the fire and they'll stare and snicker. Mom use to spend every Xmas, Xmas Eve, and Thanksgiving with my family (noone else invited her) and we had a good time. I have sent her flowers every birthday and Mother's Day. Not even a thank you. My daughter and granddaughter visited her and said I sent the flowers but she doesn't want to call me, I'll hang up on her (which I don't, but she has hung up on me). She doesn't want any communication from me. She's 83, has dementia, doesn't take her meds regularly (according to one of my bros.), is diabetic, Crohn's, hi-blood pressure, hi-cholesterol, is completelyl deaf in one ear and hardly any hearing in another, has a hard time with the english language (she's asian), and maybe about 85 pounds. She use to be a very sweet person and cared about everyone. It breaks my heart that my sister has helped her to be the way she is (as she doesn't want anyone else to visit mom, "causes too much stress which causes her Crohn's to flare up"). I was told to stay away and was not welcome in mom's home. Yes, she lives by herself, house is clean (per brother), but her safety is in jeopardy. She still cooks and was told not to (by her doctor) sine she burns her food. I don't even know if her smoke detector works anymore. My parents are divorced, she's entitled to half his pension (military). Since the siblings who are willing to help are told to stay away, what are we to do?