I been taking Care of my Mother for 5 years or more she needs 24hr care she got memory Loss do to "Vally Fever" Not Dementia. It is something like it. it's very sad I feel so sad for her she didn't deserve this. Me and my mother were always together did everything together. But just this year it hit me I got Care Givers burn out. I almost died it was so hard for me all alone. I have always been strong and was a go getter let nothing stand in my way. Even the hardest day couldn't get me down. But finally THIS SURE DID. She ended getting Mental issues. Not like she never had it But this baked the cake. like Dementia.Like a bipolar sun downer the hole bit. She is now in a Nursing home. I had a Very Hard time getting her in one Not that I wanted to but her Mental ness got out of control! Like I really know what to do what Medication she needed. Seem the Medication only made it worse in different ways if you understand what i mean. But so far she been to 3-4 different ones and they are ALL BAD! Very bad. They all need to be shut down if you ask me. I'm just one person I can take care of my mother for all the years. They can't even do that and they have everything and help with Nurses and CNA's and can't even do i!!! Thats is Messed up. There sould be cameras in ALL the Nursing homes to see what they do at night or after hours when the Administrator go's home. Not that the Administrator is any good they too are bad. All I can do Is Cry and ask if there is a loving god. Why. Help me please make the right choices. I can't even get someone with memory loss to the proper place they need to be! This is so WRONG! And these people need "Proper Care." I can't afford it Most people can't unless your rich or a Move Star. There is nobody to really help you when you have a parent at home with this kind of Illness! There needs to be changes in the system. The "Government" or the "State" needs to help they have the money and the power do something about it. God forbid if this ever happens to one of us in the future if there is any left of that. I can't really keep her in a Nursing home they are making her worse I don't know what to do!She will not live in there its elder abuse. They all are!