Mom's now in a relationship at the nursing home. Any advice?

Follow
Share

This is the continuation of the "insane" saga of my mother at the nursing home. My mother has entered into a relationship with a man at the nursing home. He's put himself in charge of my mother etc. I can't reason with her anymore. And now, he's calling me constantly on my cell phone. We've already had a dicussion with the nursing home and the state ombudsman. Didn't get us anywhere. My next step is to get a restraining order against this man. Any of you encounter these issues? Any input would be helpful.

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
3

Answers

Show:
Hugedoof, just remember a restraining order works both ways, so you may suddenly be persona non grata at the facility. Maybe that's what your mother wants after all is said and done.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

Eddie - part of the Don Quixote reference might be correct. I'll be happy to be a PITA to the nursing home, because I'm paying the bill. I don't really care if they (the nursing home) are "happy or not" as their role is to provide a safe and comfortable place for my mother. I also do not need to be the target of constant annoyance on my cell phone. The restraining order may be my best course of action. Thanks for your opinion.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

Your mom might not be "all there," but I understand her need for male companionship. And I can also understand her beau's need to save the damsel in distress. This Dulcinea del Toboso really doesn't need any saving, and his chivalry has become a pain in the __. People in NHs sooner or later gravitate towards one another, and there isn't much you can do about that.

See if you can speak -- calmly -- with any of his relatives. Another option would be to speak with the lovebirds in the presence of NH staff. At least try to get him to stop calling. A restraining order would mean that staff will have to be on the lookout, and they won't be happy; Mom won't be happy; and so will you.
Helpful Answer (0)
Report

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.