Just wanted to see if any of you had dealt with this roller coaster. My mom has been in a skilled nursing facility for a little over a year. In April, she was put on hospice due to failure to thrive and multiple TIAs. She looks terrible and we feel it is only a matter of time. However, the nursing home is calling us for every little episode- scaring me to death, so I run down there to find mom in pretty much the same state with no changes. I don't understand why they are so morose when they call. I continually think "this is it" and the emotional roller coaster is killing me. I feel the need to constantly be available to go down there- never knowing how to gauge what is serious and what isn't. I thought hospice only called when things were grave. I see her once- twice a week as it is and this up and down is taking a huge toll on me. Is this a pretty typical scenario for nursing home patients that are on hospice?