Her Dr. said to keep her foot elevated and get her to walk more. But mom -- 86 yrs with midstage dementia ---barely walks and if I try to do any exercise with her, she will shriek, 'you are killing me, ' leave me alone'. She has trouble wearing her slippers due to the feet swelling. So what should I be doing? I do put pillows under her feet at night. If I put a foot stool in front of her, she will keep her feet up only if I'm standing vigil.
Also, her feet are black-ish due to poor circulation. She needs to have an ultrasound done of her feet to figure out what exactly is happening. But mom has refused the u/s saying she has lived to be 86 with no issues and to just "leave her to her fate".
As some of you all know, I got her from our home country of India in 2019 when she couldn't live alone there anymore. She's very used to thong sandals (Clark's type) in hot tropical India and refuses to wear any type of shoes, orthopedic footwear here in the cold northeast. Now her feet swell and she can't fit into the one & only sandal she has. She refuses to wear socks for fear of slipping. She has never worn socks in her life so far. Does anyone make giant toe socks which will easily slip on her feet?
Should I take her kicking & screaming for the foot u/s?
I am more concerned that your mother needs to see an internal medicine doctor for a thorough physical. She definitely has circulation problems in her legs, but she most likely has heart failure which can be treated with diet and medications.
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Weary's mother had to be brought over from India because of her decline with Dementia. She was able to get a Green card but she is entitled to no services here for 5 years. No Medicare or SS because she did not pay into it. No Medicaid until she resides here 5 yrs. To answer Fawnby, her Mom has Dementia so hard to make her to comply to anything.
Swelling in feet: be careful there’s no liquid retention. Serious causes of feet swelling can be: urinary retention (bladder problem), kidney problem, lung problem, or heart problem.
There can be other causes: not serious.