My mom has recently been moved to long term at the nursing home. She was living with me, my husband, and 4 children until I just couldnt care for her anymore as her PSP progressed for the worse. Now she doesnt want to be there and has been very depressed and manipulative. I am at a loss at what more I can possibly do for her. The staff at the nusing home is afraid of her because she reports them all for things they didnt even do then cries to me that they are mean to her. I have talked to the staff over and over and they tell me how she asks for her meds and they tell her its not time yet and she will cry and say they are mean and witholding her meds and thats just the tip of the iceberg on her behavior.
When I get there and she sees me immediately she starts crying and yelling at me that they are abusing her and I need to get her out of there. When i try to explain to her whats going on she just doesnt listen. I am at a complete loss and dread going to visit every time when I shouldnt feel that way. The visits consist of nothing but crying and accusations and how I abandoned her there which isnt fair at all because I tried so hard to care for her at my home but just couldnt do it with a full time job and 4 children. I feel guilty and at a loss at this point. I am not sure how to deal with her behavior anymore. My kids dont even like to go there anymore because they dont like to see how she treats me. She makes up stories such as yesterday she said the staff killed the woman next to her in the room and i said no I just saw her in the hallway. She was insistent that they killed the woman and then they wheel her in and IZm like see she is alive! Why is she doing these things? Has anyone else had these kind of experiences? She has some dementia but forgets small things it is not that bad and the staff feels she is manipulating me to get her out of there. I am at my wits end..its constant stress 15+ phone calls a day of the same thing. I would love if anyone can share similar experiences or ways they have coped. I appreciate any feedback!