My Mom's caregiver is now requesting her POA, Health care surrogate, etc..Why? - AgingCare.com

My Mom's caregiver is now requesting her POA, Health care surrogate, etc..Why?

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She is not a RN,CNA,HHA. We want to be informed of any medical interventions, decisions etc...we have caught several mistakes in the past with RX's, unreported falls, wounds etc... that we have caught at different places.We also want to speak to the doctors, pharmacists etc...on anything to do with her care. No DNR involved. Why does the caregiver need access to this information? We have also dealt with ID theft through the bank and her SS#-previous caregiver deverted to her account in the past- so we are very weary of giving out any info that is not legally necessary.

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nowmymomsmom, good idea telling the Caregiver to contact your Mom's attorney if there are any questions. End of story. The Caregiver shouldn't ask again.

Have your Mom's credit frozen with all three of the credit bureaus. It's easy to do on-line and the cost is very reasonable [last year I froze my credit and it was $10 for each bureau, it depends on which State your Mom resides, some are free... I froze my credit just to play it safe because of the store credit card hacking that was going on]. That way no one can get new credit cards, buy a car, etc. using your Mom's credit.
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I don't think you need to move and loose your job and your life. There must be some other way to go visit and look into this and get it resolved without such radical actions.
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If you have just become aware of her identity theft activities, go back to the company that recommended her and make them aware of it as well. Then call the DA, present your evidence and unleash the hounds.
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This is the person I was refered to as a top provider in my area-nurses-senior center etc.........they run several homes and there are slim pickings here. As she has now been there a few months things are "popping up" that I wasn't told. I am trying to find alternate care now...which is horrible here. Ready to move out of state and loose my job/life just to get her good care!
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Why on Earth is this person working for you? Are you nuts?
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the doctors/ hospitals all have the info already signed by me. She is a full code NO dnr in place-she must be declared by two doctors -1st and 2nd in agreement of having no quality of life- not just one. I pay all her bills directly to the care giver. She does not know CPR she will call 911 if an issue arises which I have asked and let them make the decision or myself as to hospitalization. Too many seem to want to sweep things under the rug and say they are fine when they fall have an accident they may have a broken hip etc....better safe than sorry.I have explained my or my attorney will provide her with any questions she needs answered but she wants the docs? I have told her I will discuss with my attorney as to which docs she is entitled to.
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nowmymomsmom, have you talked to the Caregiver on what to do if an emergency should happen and you are not there to give out information? Like if your Mom has a heart attack and the Caregiver knows CPR, should she do the CPR? I see nothing wrong with the Caregiver having a DNR if she has to go to the hospital with your Mom.

Now a days, it's not unusual for one's primary doctor or for your local hospital to scan said documents to have on file. That way there won't be any type of misunderstanding on what to do or not to do when the family is in an emotional state.
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Oh. That is not as bad as I feared. But there is no need to give her copies of those documents. All she needs to know is who pays her, who has authority to fire her, and a list of numbers she should call if there is an emergency.

If there was a DNR order, she would want access to that, to give to an emergency responder, but you say that is not the case.

Has she told you why she wants these documents? She may have a legitimate concern that you could satisfy by giving her a list or simple answers.
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She wants copies of all documents.
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Who is this caregiver?

Where is your mother living?

How far away do you live from your mother?

The caregiver does not need all of that information. They aren't the ones authorized to use them.
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