Mom's caregiver quit! What would you do?

Hi fellow Canadian. Mother was in facilities in Edmonton and did well there. Placing your mum could work for both of you. Burnout means you need a break. Do you know of any places you would be comfortable putting her in?

My mother lived in an assisted living facility for many years. It was staffed with skilled aides and nurses, social workers and people who coordinated activities for the seniors. My mother had people her own age to talk to, and there were always people around, so she was never alone, unless she wanted to be. These facilities are not all bad. Try to find one close to you so that you can visit often. You also need a break.

We had similar problems in Montreal with our mother over a 5 year period. We had to replace multiple caregivers who quit because our mother was difficult or they got a better job. We used three methods to find people:
1. We talked to the district nurse who did home care in the area. She knew all the at-home caregivers because she would visit the elderly when they needed shots, tests, etc. She gave us names and numbers "unofficially"
2. We asked the outgoing caregiver or our other caregivers to recommend someone.
3. We found an agency that could get people.
None of these was foolproof and we just recently moved Mum into a nursing home because we could not reliably get care, her dementia worsened, and the house was falling apart.
You could also place your mom temporarily in a home for "respite care" so you can find new caregivers and recover yourself.

Why did she quit? Does she need more hours? A couple hours might seem not quite worth the trip. If that is the issue, what about every other day for 6 hrs each?

Do you have any information about respite in your area?

Hello! This happened to me just now.

I hope you find a new person quickly!

“Right at a time when I'm dealing with burnout and frustrated”

Just like me.
Although I, was just having a relaxed time, and then this happened. We have several aides doing shifts. One aide (my elderly uncle’s favorite) decided to return to her home town. She gave plenty of notice, so I have several weeks to find someone.

Good luck in finding a good aide!

“I am thinking of placing her, even temporarily”

Only you know all that’s going on, the best way forward.

An unexpected problem (aide leaving). It’s like having the rug pulled from under you.

I hope something good comes out of this for you, for me!

Poodle Doodle

Is it called, "Respite Care," where YOU can get a break?

cinderblock: Imho, as your profile states that your mother suffers from dementia, perhaps you should place her in a managed care facility.

There are so many good nursing homes with caregivers who are trained and devoted to the
patients. I hope you find one for her.