Unstable caregiver went off on me when I asked what happened. "I didn't do it!", flailing her arms and screaming: "You will never f'ing disrespect me again!" "You'll have to leave!", "You'll have to move her out and take care of her yourself!"
This time the $3000 hearing aid literally rattles when you pick it up. Mom tells me it was "too vigorous cleaning". She has dementia so I can't believe what she tells me. A hearing aid is a delicate piece of equipment which must be cared for properly. Last time they ripped the battery door off. This time the thing had to be smashed or thrown against a wall. Mom is in hospice and is not capable as she can no longer even feed herself.
I moved mom here from another nightmare facility six months ago. At the time she could toilet and feed herself with assistance. After much searching I thought I had found the right facility. Within three months she was bedbound but happy as I had set her up with all she could desire. The staff thought she was wonderful and sweet.
She ended up in the hospital with a UTI every month around the 20th of each month consecutively with much drama on the part of the staff, always on the watch of the staff member in question. The last time I was informed it was chronic and mom should be put in hospice. It was arranged and after some confusion it seemed to settle down.
Everything was fine until last month when everything went wrong fast. There had been some politics among the staff with each other but after six months I finally got it. The "golden child" staff member who had the facility owner's ear was causing a multitude of strife on many levels and blaming everyone else. She realized this and stopped discussing everyone else's shortcomings with me. Now that I understood what was going on I was the enemy to be eradicated. I had stopped propping her up with gifts before Christmas. Now that mom is in hospice others must be shuffled off to the hospital at the end of each month.
So now its starting to look like Munchausen and Stockholm syndromes.
I am already grieving the inevitable loss of my mother and this wicked individual has decided to make it worse by oppressing me. I suspect the abuse will eventually filter to my mom so what choice do I have other than to find another place for her. I am so very weary of dealing with hateful manipulators.
May they reap what they have sown.