My mom has early on set Alzheimer's and her behavior is making me question if I should stay or walk away?

Yes, all the legalities are important but that will not change the behaviors. You and your mom need to see her PCP and have a conversation about appropriate meds to ease your mom's anxiety. The diagnosis of Alzheimers is heart wrentching for family and patient. She needs to vent her frustration and unfortunatly you are caught in the crossfire. Have you contacted you local Alzheimers Association? Your mom may resist however this may be her way of not facing what she knows is her future. Being her advocate is difficult but stand firm, contact a local Ombudsman for advice re: your brother. Now is not the time to bail and leave her to your brother's irresponsibility. Be patient, hire a caregiver if need be to give yourself some respite and see her PCP asap. She will not make reasonable decisions re: POA's in the mindset that she is in now if they are not already in place . If they are not, time is of the essence as her condition progresses. There is help for you - you just need to seek them out
and the Alzheimers Association can help you with that. Best of luck.

If none of the above suggestions work...and she continues to be this abuse...LEAVE!! You are tooo young to give up your life for constant abuse if it continues. goood luck...have read many posts on this topic!

Unfortunately she is at the stage where this behavior is quite common. Don't walk away from her. Just try to tolerate it and let it go. As her disease progresses she will stop the combative behavior. I know it all to well from my own family. Just hang in there.

If you post on an open forum such as this, then anyone can make a comment or a suggestion. . If you don't care for their comments, then don't post in the first place. Ignorance abounds in this day and age.

It can help all of us to view Teepa Snow videos. Just type in her name. You learn a lot as caregivers & where the patient is. TEEPA SNOW. Tell your friends.

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So agree with DianeMarie. I am blessed to have a young neighbor mom who wanted a job during school hours and who comes for 6 hours each day, Monday through Friday. In addition to helping my 96 year old mom with meals and hygeine, she has become a friend to both of us. Somedays she just focuses on cheering my mom up.. like watching old movies with her or doing her hair. And for those six hours, I have my life back. It really is true that you have to take care of yourself first. And always remember that you cant make her be happy and sweet again, no matter how hard you try. She is the victum of dying brain cells and has no control over much of what she feels or does. Best of luck to you!

I think it would be wise for you to see the town's social worker. I am on my mobile device right now, else I would see where you live.

chocolinda...ignorant people are those who think their way is the only way! please don't send me your nasty personal emails because i expressed my opinion????

You have no idea how your brother does not realize that Mom's illness has taken its toll on you. I feel that way because taking care of my grandmother at age 41 is taking its toll on my health as well I don't sleep much, lost interest in things that I enjoy doing like dating and having a social life. I spend days outside of my job taking care of her and it's unfair how my family members get to take a vacation and I can't go anywhere except work and home. I feel like a prisoner who is doing a life sentence with no sign of parole. You may want to consider options about her going into senior living since she's early onset and not advanced with a home care aide that can come in a few days a week to work with her. You need a life of your own and your brother is a piece of work for making it seem as if you're the one doing wrong when he's only around when he needs money and food. I hope that you can find a positive solution to this with options that will take some of the stress and burden off you so you can maintain your health and well being.

Blondie...are you out there? You've gotten many good suggestions and folks have posed a few questions for you. It's hard to be helpful if we don't hear anything back from you. Can you check in?