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Ever since my mom (75) has started going through menopause, which is about 20 years ago, she has always been "too warm." After having a bout of severe depression 6 years ago, that lasted a whole year, she is much worse! She keeps her house at 60 degrees year around and the ceiling fans are always on. Her house is like a refrigerator! We have to wear a coat in her house in the summertime when it is 90 degrees outside! 5 years ago she did not attend my graduation from radiology school for fear that she would get too warm. It devastated me as I worked so hard to get through school and it meant a lot that she should go, but no amount of persuading would change her mind. She has missed baby showers, bridal showers, and funerals because of this. Has anyone ever heard of this? She will not carpool to events because she is afraid it will be too warm in my car. I tend to believe that it is a social anxiety thing more than a 'fear of getting too warm." She sees her doctor regularly and is on an anti-depressant medication and a few other meds for cholesterol and BP. Other than that, she is fairly heathly, considering that she doesn't get much exercise and her diet isn't the greatest. Any thoughts on this?

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That was what I was thinking,JessieBelle, I just wanted another opinion. She is one of those very proud, very stubborn women. She never admits to being wrong even when she knows she is. I think in her mind that being afraid of getting too warm sounds better than being aftraid to socialize, or afraid to leave the house. She does attend some social events but is always last to arrive and first to leave and always makes sure she stays close to the exit. She may be a little clostrophobic, too. Many times she will go outside for a while when at an event because she is 'too warm. I think it is simply she is getting anxiety and needs to leave the situation for a few minutes. She as had her thyroid checked and it is fine. She is overweight. She lost 50# in 6 months when she had the severe depression. Then she gained it all back and more! Weel, each of us has our own way of dealing with things, and that is hers. Like you said, she is missing out on life. My brothers and I have told her that. She acts like she doesn't care. She pretty-much has a comfort zone that she will not leave. She also is married to an abusive husband but thinks she can't live without him. He is the reason she went into the depression.....I know....big mess. But she has been offered a pace to live by 3 of her children, but refuses to leave him. My brother even built a mother-in-law wing onto his house and she won't go. So....it's her choice to be miserable. We've tried everything we know how. It is so sad to see her waste her life. Like her best friend said, " There are better ways to die..."
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waiting, I also suspect it is an anxiety disorder -- either that or she has an overactive thyroid. Is her weight normal? Sometimes obese people can feel too warm. Whatever it is, it sounds like the fear of being too warm is limiting her enjoyment of life. I would encourage her to find out what the problem might be so she can enjoy life more fully.
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My parents keep my house at thermonuclear! They can never get warm enough! I guess we can;t win either way. They have no social issues, just always cold. I almost envy you, but I know it;s not funny because I live in the opposite direction and it's just as awful
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