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My mother has been in a nursing home for the past two years she was great and everything was wonderful up to the last 7 months. She received a new room mate and this room mate has been horrible she calls her names like stupid and crazy and says things to her like "look she can't even pull her own pants up" my mom's roommate has already been in 4 different rooms in the past year and seems she fights with everyone. I know I can move my mother but physically and mentally this is bad for her especially now that she fell out of the wheel chair two weeks ago and broke her nose. My mother is timid and quiet and won't tell us it bothers her but I can see in her face it hurts her. I have been very quiet but last week when the roommate called my mother stupid I voiced my opinion back and now the nursing home has me on supervised visits and I can't be alone in the room. I have filed 15 grieviences with the home and nothing is ever done. I am in the process tomorrow morning of contacting the Ombudsman for the area and then I assume I go to the state next I am at my end of my ropes I would move my my but the home is directly across the street from my home which gives me more time with mom. Help anyone have a solution?

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Record the abuse your mother is getting from the roommate and use it to get her transferred out of that situation. The fact that she's had multiple roommates is proof positive that they WILL move her if there's cause. Sounds like part of the problem is your passive mom who doesn't want to rock the boat. You need to convince her that she needs to be pro active in helping you get this "roomie" into another room.
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I would document everything and I would contact the social worker and tell her that the roommate is not working out. My father had a roommate in the last nursing home he was in that was from Iran. He played middle eastern music on an IPAD all hours of the day and would set it down right behind my dad's chair and go off down the hall with it playing. At first my Dad was very paranoid of the man. He thought he was one of the "head honchos" in the taliban or something. :)
Anyway, the nursing home said if it got to be too much they could move him or my dad. They said they do it all the time. Eventually the man left and went back to another state. The grew to tolerate each other but men can isolate from each other if they need to. I would definitely report it factually and calmly to the social worker. You are your mother's advocate. If she is too timid then you should advocate on her behalf. The roommate is the one with the track record. you aren't. good luck!
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