Two months ago I moved my mom to AL because I could not provide the 24 hour a day care she needed. Since then she has declined rapidly, been in and out of the hospital, is on her second facility, has repeated urinary infections, refuses to eat, is aggressive and combative physically and verbally, and they are putting her on more and more psych meds and are telling me they may have to call 911 and put her in a psych ward. Did I cause that? Two months ago she was confused but nothing like this. If I bring her home she may get better, but my husband says no and it will ruin my life. How do I make the choice to put myself first and let her life become hell?