Situation: Mom has one leg amputated and solely gets around via wheelchair. She was too stubborn to learn how to use a prosthetic leg. A year and a half later, she now lives in a nursing home. Admin is saying she refuses to wear pants and only has her adult diapers partially pulled up. When staff tries to help her get dressed or adjust her diapers, she gets cross, angry and refuses help. She sits on towels laid out on her wheelchair and on her bed and INSISTS she's clean and happy with the way things are. (I know for a fact, she is sometimes not completely clean.) It's unsanitary and undignified but no one (no family member, no child, no trusted staff) can convince her to wear it. I used to buy her diapers she liked despite the care home offering their own. (She wanted pull-ups. The care home has the kinds with the sticker tabs on the sides. She hates those.) It worked for a while until then she stopped pulling those up completely to cover her bum. Eventually, she asked to have me stop sending them and she'd just use the ones they offer. I don't know how to help her. She stubborn and cranky and seems to be getting worse. I'm considering buying her the ones she likes again if it helps...? Any ideas?