HELP! Mom won't sleep and won't let me!! Any answers?

Aren't people who are 94 years old supposed to sleep quiet a bit? My Mom, I have commented many times on here, went from sleeping 20-22 hours to practically nothing and won't take a nap either. She doesn't allow me to either. If I should accidentally doze off in my recliner, where I am supposed to set all day and evening so she knows my whereabouts at all times, she wakes me up by shaking me! She wears me out! I am at wit's end, because now it is getting to when my husband naps after he comes in from work, she is waking him up. We get up at 4:00 every morning, and on some mornings I have to put her to back to bed and even then she is up by daylight. Can't get her to go to bed, I'm guessing she is afraid she is going to miss something! Are all old people so nosy?? What I am wondering is there something that I could give her early in the evening to help her rest and sleep?? It's to the point of, heaven forbid, if I should go to my room and lay down on the bed to just rest in privacy or even disappear in the house for privacy!! She comes on the hunt of me. October will make me 3 years of caregiving and I am tired and worn out and my health is suffering from it. We have a lot of stress going on because my husband's job is ready to shut down at the end of the month, leaving us in a lot of financial binds. I need to go to work, but can't because I take care of Mom. I am at wit's end! Any answers?

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Sure there are Rx to help her sleep,tell her Dr he'll prescribe something..
What about herbal tea before going to bed? Or there is always ambien..
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Has her medication changed? The old stuff made her sleep, and the new stuff wakes her up?

There certainly is medication available to help. Consult her doctor. You can't go on getting no sleep.
My dad and mom are always stress and can't sleep so I introduced to them what I'm currently using 100% Ganoderma Organic Tea and coffee found
I have a very stressful job working offshore on an oil rig and being away from my family can't sleep much at night. But since my parents and I included this in our exercise and diet life, we are sleeping better, feeling more energetic. Even drinking the tea or coffee 30 mins before a morning walk on the treadmill, beach, or park, brings a healthy balance to your life, other benefits from the tea lowers cholesterol, high blood pressure, boots metabolism, detoxifies, improve memory and blood circulation, reduce stress, protects the liver and kidney oxygenates the body reduces joint pains and the herb helps to reduce heart diseases. There is a red tea also this one increases the absorption of iron into the body...I consider it my cheapest health insurance...
you poor thing i know how hard it is getting no sleep when care giving it makes you cranky and moody, try to do activity's just simple things like a nice jigsaw or bake a few buns then slowly progress to a little walk if possible or a little drive and jinx has the right idea a trip to the doctors about this could help, also i know it may seem a bit far fetched but dont let her watch tv, play on the computer or do things like that as these let of a special kind of light that keeps the brain active, my fiance had this problem when playing xbox games in a evening he would just become so wide awake until we found out it was to do with the light this technology lets of so maybe instead of watching tv do a puzzle or just have a chat and try to get into a routine like 8.00 tv goes off and hot bedtime drinks are made, 8.30 time for a little chat and talk about anything that may have been in the news, 9.00 upstairs to bed maybe some hot milk to go with it, if you get the idea. good luck xxx
and i forgot to add on the job front maybe you could try working from home, they have jobs for chat moderators who just and watch chat rooms in bingo games online, there at cm jobs hopefully you can find something there
I feel your pain!! My Mom, who has dementia and Parkinson's, goes to bed at 7, wakes at 11 pm, 1 am, 2 am, and then finally 4 am...each time she thinks it's morning time, makes her bed and is headed to the kitchen to make coffee. I'm up each time redirecting her back to bed and when I tell her what time it is, she just giggles. She thinks it's hilarious that her days and nights are so screwed up, lol. That's with her being on Seroquel 50 mg...I actually just called her doc today and they are starting her on Paxil as well. Her lack of sleep definitely increases her hallucinations and confusion. I hope you find a solution soon!!
I'm going thru the same thing, Liz. My Dad keeps getting up all night and snacking, turning on the TV,I have to sleep in the living room. I was giving him ambien for a while, but stopped because it didn't do any good. I also felt the less meds the better,
I eliminated his use of adding caffienated instant coffee to his cocoa. That's his after-dinner vice. We now have instant de-caf and he's not complaining. I still can't sleep. I'm just too wound up, and he always gets up after I get in bed.
I see I'm not the only one dealing with this. Over a year of minimal sleep- you can develop a lot of health problems! My stress level is off the charts.
One positive change I made: We adopted a small dog. He has been such a comfort to both of us, and forces us both to walk. I'm glad he's not allergic! The dog really helps to calm me down, and I see the benefits to my Dad.
Some people reccommend Melatonin, but I stopped using that due to intense dream activity.(nightmares) That is the one side effect I didn't like.
Last night he told me his bed was too hard. We will get a matress topper. I'm hoping that helps. I wish you well and some relief too!
I am caregiver to my mother in law. She wasn't sleeping when she first came here. We have her on Xanex, Ambien and Riserdal. She now sleeps. Thank the lord. The hospice team had to go through trial and error till they found what worked, but talk to her doctor or health care team and explain the problem they should be able to help you.
The first thing I would recommend of course is to see her doctor. There are medications that can help, but before you go the pharmaceutical route, there are more natural supplements you can try. Ask her doctor about melatonin. My best friend, who is caregiving for his 83 year old mother with stage 6 Alzheimer's disease found melatonin to be a very good solution with no side effects, since melatonin is a substance that naturally occurs in the body. As we age, our production and use of it can change which can interrupt sleep. If you try that for a couple of weeks and it doesn't work for her, you can try some of the more advanced medications others have recommended like ambien, seroquel, or many others. Your health which is already suffering can only get worse if you don't sleep. Your immune system is taking a beating from lack of sleep!

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