She sleeps so very much. i've tried to meet with the staff doctor [never available] to reduce the strength of her pain meds, in exchange for more frequent doseages. and a mild one for break through pain before PT [she'd then be more willing to do the PT without the anxiety and pain she now has]. Instead they increased her BP meds, which has been under control for years. Pain causes it to raise. Even prior to surgery in 7/2015, i gave her Motrin for break-through pain but she can't tolerate the ES Norco. She was fine on the regular strength, every 4-5 hours. Her fall was in 12/2014 when causing her left arm to come out of place and requiring a shoulder replacement. The NH has no way for her to define the change of one day to the next and no room for even a TV. The Speech Therapist [memory] talks about things in a monotone outside of her reference zone: Lewis & Clark expedition? And he gives her stories to recite back the next day, that she's supposed to memorize? i know she has problems with rumination, forgetfulness and she's now on Nameda to "help". i think the environment - lack of progress and the mix of meds - is working against her. i go there everyday: one day the nurse heard me encouraging Mom to eat, and really chastised me in front of Mom. She said "She's old and has been through a lot, leave her alone if she doesn't want to eat." i was boiling mad, and had to leave. Mom is one who caused the room to light up - all her life. But her resistance and being repulsed by food has been ongoing for at least 3 weeks! What can i do -- i've talked to other staff -- head nurse, dietician, etc - but nothing changes. i bring Ensure in with me - but lately, i end up throwing it away the next day. i've tried crackers [saltine and graham], applesauce, yogurt, ice cream, --- she sends her meal trays back, completely untouched. Help? i love my Mom --- isn't there a way to "break through" this resistance, please? i never had a problem with her eating puddings of any kind - but she won't even eat the ones i make at home and take to her. The plan was for her to get the expert rehab [serious surgery] and then come home! i still want her home ... i don't care how much work it is. [i'm still dealing with that basement flood we had in the winter - but the homecare/ PT folks also had their demands on the days. i've been Mom's sole care taker ... my one sister visits about 3 times a month; the other has not even bothered to visit. i even asked Mom if she didn't want me to come visit anymore -- just to see how she'd react -- she didn't say anything - and she was expressionless as tears ran down my face.
When the PT / OT people try to work with her, she goes through the "anxiety" jittery steps, and "oh Lord, help me.... don't let me fall." i realize it's natural for her to feel insecure, but she'd been there a month, and her sling just came off last week [17 staples in her shoulder and now a pressure wound on her elbow].
Any insights -- how can i get through to her -- how can i get her to eat? i even bought her a smoothie that she loves, but she didn't drink it - it went to waste.
i'd be so grateful. i'm having railings replaced to make it safer at home for her, and yes, still finishing the taxes for last year, amidst the basement flood turmoil/ problems that need to be resolved. Everything is so very topsy turvy. i need nerve blocks again in my back and neck, but i don't have time. My one sister lives 50 minutes away -- she's the one that visits Mom, but doesn't tell me when she's going. She's aware i need help, but "she has her life."