Mom, 98, fell and fractured dominant arm - in a sling. She was discharged this weekend and I am finding it so hard to get her in and out of bed to commode. She is overweight and has limited mobility. Until I get more aide hours, it's just my hubby and I trying to get her to a commode by her bed. I cannot do it alone. I ask her to urinate in her diaper and she says she's trying but cannot. Is there something I can do to get her to "let go"?
If she is all there mentally you need to explain the risk of injury for you and your husband. Hopefully, she cares enough about you guys to not want you injured.
I would also not let her stay in bed, make her get up and sit in a chair for part of the day.
Don't use drugs! Place the most absorbent depends & bed pad (we call them 'kylie') & reassure her. When she gets over full it will happen. Or make her laugh 😉😂
For me, letting her suffer until she is in so much pain from her bladder sounds cruel. Can you possibly get someone else to help you?