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When we have taken our mother to the doctor for her regular check-ups, the doctor would concur when my sister would ask if mom has dementia or alzheimers. Mom would immediately deny this blaming a seniors moment - mom is 80 -or take the fifth and not offer any other explanations. Mom has steadily gone down hill the past 4 years. That was when she was given an ID card instead of a drivers license. Also at that time she washaving her cataracts removed due to her eyes going bad. She steadfastly told her eye doctor that she was going to beat the macular degeneration. Now a days she does not see much better than before though she no longer wears her glasses. She does little reading and listen to the tv rather than watch. When I visit her in the memory care facility I am greeted wth teary eyes and open arms. I know that in time she will definately need to be in this or another facility but I believe that as long as mom has the fight in her she should be in her comfort zone and be in her own familiar home. I was her caregiver prior to her going to the facility and would be the primary caregiver if she went home - with support. My sister is the p.o.a. for mom so she is the one that mom and I would have to convince. Any chance of bringing mom home home - even for a short time ? any thoughts or ideas ?

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Your mom sounds like my mom somewhat. I never tried to get my mom to own the fact she has the onset of dementia. My thought is that would be too upsetting. My mom requires 24/7 care. Dementia has become a safety issue as well. My mom is 79. I'm too young to quit working. Therefor my mom is in a residential care home which her room can be made to look as familiar as her home because it is a real home in a regular neighborhood if you will and it's better than a clinical facility. Bring things from home to decorate and with in 6 months she will think you all live there. Just modify. But it's my opinion dementia requires 24/7 care and unless you are ready to provide that you may want to consider leavening her where she is or find another place. I cry every time I leave after visiting my mom. It's all very sad what dementia does to our parents and to the family.
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Yes, antidepressants, think of it as a pain reliever. Crying is pain. Go home? Not a good idea, very risky, don't do it, even for a weekend. Nobody can do the work of 3 shifts of nurses and many have died trying.
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