Gang, I'm in a quandry. My mom, 83, moved into assisted living this past February. We've had a care manager for the past year or so to take my mom to appointments and generally check up on her.
My mom has always been paranoid. She is so adamant now, that she has caught someone sneaking around her room, that I'm finding myself considering that possibility, in spite of her history. I'm not sure what to do. I can't move her and change care managers every time she decides they're stealing from her. But what if? What if one of them IS dishonest? What if just one of the twenty crazy things she told me tonight is true?
Mom lives in Arizona and I live in NYC. I cannot move, because the job prospects where my mom is are terrible, and at age 51, I cannot afford to risk my income and jeopardize my retirement.
So part of me thinks, what could it hurt, asking the police if they've had any complaints about people stealing at my mother's facility? But then I wonder if I'm just getting sucked in, because it's my mother's voice saying these outrageous things.
I welcome your thoughts on this, knowledge of statistics around criminal activity in assisted living, and especially your own experiences caring from afar for a demented parent.
Thank you all for sharing yourselves here. Jenni