Today I got a call from the Memory Care saying that my mother had "put her hands" on another resident and that they needed to notify me because an incident report needed to be filed and they wanted me to speak to my mother about not putting hands on anyone again. Since this was so out of character for her I immediately went to the home to talk to her and the aids that are taking care of her. I found out that what had actually happened was much worse than it sounded. Another resident who has been coming into my mother's room uninvited and found sleeping in her bed or going through her stuff had again come into my mother's room. I had told her previously when this happens she need to immediately go get the staff. She says they never do anything to stop this. Today it happens that Mom was in using her bathroom and the woman walked into her room. Mom told her to leave and the woman got very belligerent and swore at Mom. Apparently Mom had enough and "showed" this woman that she was not going to put up with her anymore. The aids had to stop her from throttling the woman. My question is can they say that because my mother is showing a violent tendency that she can no longer live there? Years ago when we tried to place my Dad no nursing home would take him because he would loose his temper and clock people. Fortunately he was eligible for the VA. He had dementia and Parkinson's. Mom has never reacted this way before and most everyone talks about how sweet she is. But I do see her getting worse with the dementia and fear this may be a new aspect that we may be looking at. I did ask if they could please try to keep this woman away from her as I do see just being in her presence agitates her. The woman's family are real bullies so I'm fearful they may try something themselves.