Question is how? How can someone who is confused, unable to reason clearly, has memory issues, etc., etc., manage to say the one thing that hurt me more than anything else? She was never mean. So that's not it. How did she, confused as she is, manage to say the most hurtful thing to me? And then blame me for getting upset? Im new here, but not new to my mother being ill for ten years with heart disease and now dementia. I feel guilty even writing this, but I am in tears. Thanks for a response.