My Dad passed almost 2 years ago. We noticed things going on with my mom about 1-1/2 years before that. It started with her inability to do tasks like she used to - forgetting how to answer a phone that was ringing - choosing a knife to eat her entire meal - no longer cooking or driving, etc. Initially we thought it may be depression, as my Dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. We were blessed that my Dad lived 3 years beyond diagnosis and led a very full and healthy life. In fact, his death was a surprise as they were on vacation and the cancer was stable. Since he passed, Mom has been primarily with my family. We recently moved her into a beautiful assisted living facility in hopes she could meet some friends, become more active versus sitting in my house waiting for us all to get home from our days.
This transition has been almost harder than her living with me for the past 18 months! I had no privacy in my home and woke up to her standing in the hallway at the butt crack of dawn to pulling in the driveway and her standing in the door waiting for me after work. Now she calls me NON-STOP throughout the day at work to complain about how much she hates her new home.
I'm trying to help her get engaged with the community and she will go and rave about the people she met and that they are the nicest people EVER. But 2 hours later she is miserable and lonely. She expects me to visit every day (she is 35 minutes away) - but I have a full time job, 2 teenagers and a husband that have been neglected the past 2 years with all my parent drama.
I guess I'm just looking for affirmation that we need to give the assisted living facility a chance - I can't have her with me 100% of the time - every conversation is nothing but her complaining and I have become depressed and miss hanging out with my husband, kids and friends like I used to. So selfish...