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Hello everyone! This forum is so helpful to everyone. Thanks for any insight.


The facility where my Mother is will be doing a renovation of her section. This section is Memory Assisted Care. For people who can function enough but have Dementia. She lives alone there as Dad has passed. She is 94 and physically strong. Her conversations are a looping of the same questions for about 20-45 minutes but she is NORMALLY upbeat.


The other day they called to share that they will need to renovate the entire area and that my mom's wing will be first. All residents will be moved up to a different section and the friend that she has and spends hours a day will be in a different section. They say 8 weeks but the volume of work makes me think it will be much more.


I am very concerned about her at this point. Moving someone at this stage can't be good. All of them will be confused and scared.


Has this happened to anyone else?


My gut is saying this will be a very bad thing for the progression of her dementia and then when she comes back she won't remember her original home.


Thanks for any input/insight.


Marie

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I would inquire about keeping the friends together. It really should be considered and not that difficult.

As for the move, if they can set up her temporary room to be just like her current room, it might help. The rest of the area may be different than the one she is used to, but staff should be there to "guide" them when needed.

When it's time to move back, setting up the room should be the same as it is now. If there's any way for you to take pictures and ensure the set up is proper, go for it!
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Murphy18966 Apr 2021
They said they were going to put a few pieces in the room to make her feel familiar. I have asked to have her friend in the same section. With meds and special care by person, I doubt they will accommodate my request.

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About 8 months after my mom entered residential care, the entire population of her building was moved into a beautiful new facility right next door.

For one whole day, she sat like a statue, observing, not speaking, not moving.

The very next day, everything was fine again.

Is there any possibility that she and her friend could visit now and again during their days apart?
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Murphy18966 Apr 2021
Thanks AnnReid! My hope is that they hear my request for this at the facility. I appreciate that you shared your experience. Encouraging.
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It appears there is no other option, if I am right? Have you told them that you would like the Mom and friend in same area of facility? If at all possible. Otherwise, this is just one of those things that happens. I hope it goes well.
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Murphy18966 Apr 2021
Yes, AlvaDeer. I have expressed my concerns. I know it has to happen and we have to deal with it. Thank you!
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Your concern is understandable but may not be an issue. In my own experience, right before the first round of covid was hitting NHs last spring, they had moved my MIL (in LTC) to a new room and then she and many others got covid. The NH moved her and others to yet another room, because they had to make a designated wing for the sick elders. She was super sick with covid but survived and went back to her normal. She was moved then again after that. I'm sure it was discomforting for her, but she did become adjusted. She is in good and stable spirits today.

What would be the alternative for the facility to get anything done? Have you expressed your concerns to them? Won't it be a good thing that her room is refreshed? If your mom doesn't "remember her original home" it may be because of her advancing dementia and have nothing to do with the move. Try not to worry about something that hasn't happened yet. May you receive peace in your heart over this concern.
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Murphy18966 Apr 2021
Thank you Geaton777! I am, first of all, happy that your MIL recovered from Covid! Those were the worst days for sure.

You're right. Don't worry about what hasn't happened yet. That is a life lesson that we all can learn to live by.
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