My Mom has had Alzheimer's that we know of for about 6 years. She has done well until lately. I had her at my home and had a caregiver, she started to fall quite often and one night it was bad she hit her head so hard that I had an ambulance come take her to the hospital.
The Doctor advised us that it was time to put her in a home and that she requires 24 hour a day care. My family flew in and we found a very nice place but now I wonder if it was the right decision. I was shocked when I went in the home, I still had horror thoughts of a nursing home from way back when my great grandfather was in one so I was quite surprised to see just how nice it was. I could not ask for more with the staff members, they are all so caring.
Lately my Mom has become very combative. She tries to hit the aids, she cusses them out and has scratched some. Although its very embarrassing everyone knows it just the disease and they know that after she gets up in the morning she will return to her sweet self.
The concern that I have is when you walk into the home there are a lot of residents that are in wheel chairs, kind of slumped over and sleeping, some don't talk. Mom seems to have gone down hill very fast the last month and I can't help but wonder if its because of her environment. We had to again take her to the hospital about 2 weeks ago, this time she kept saying she hurt, was very sick to her stomach and her blood pressure was way out of control. She checked out fine except for a yeast infection, they think at this point she can't decipher itching from pain. She is refusing to eat, I'm lucky to get a couple bites of a Cheeseburger in her, I say Cheeseburger because if nothing else she would always eat that so I bring them to her in hopes to get her to eat. I have though about bringing her back home but I know in my heart that I do not have the means to take care of her and that is very hard to admit. I though that I would take care of her until the end, I had even told my sister that if I had to hire 2 people I would but now I do understand a little better that its not easy to work a full time job and try and depend on caregivers, I did not have a lot of luck with them. Do you think the reason for mom's sudden decline is due to being put in the nursing home? She thinks its her apartment, I'm amazed she has a little dog that is with me and when we took her to the hospital the first time its like she has forgot about her dog. The dog was her whole life and she had never mentioned her again and its been about 3-4 months. I would appreciate any advice, its devastating watching your loved one go through all this. I'm not sure if I mentioned but at this point she will not even try to walk, I think she is to week because she will not eat.