I have been in and out of posts and I feel like a broken record, but when I am feeling down, I return to find a hug or another post and I do not feel so bad. My biggest issue lately is convincing my mom to bathe. She absolutely cannot do it herself and she flat out lies repeatedly that she just took a bath. I cannot get her to change her clothes because she will tell you, "I just changed my clothes."
I used to be able to coax her into the bath, but she fights me like a small, hateful child. Her bath consists of sitting on the bath chair in the tub and I provide as much privacy as possible and I do it fast. I let her believe she is doing it herself, but then jump in and wash her back and hair. I hold her arm so she can stand to wash her bottom, but it appears those days are over. I have never experienced her hatred like this before. "It is humiliating," she says. I tell her I understand and that I am here to only get the bath ready and help her with her hair.
After baths prior, she would thank me repeatedly and tell me how good she feels. Can you even imagine? I even taped her telling me this on my phone, for future use, but she refuses to watch it when I try to show her as I beg her to get into the bath again.
When I took her to her Dr. apt. a few weeks ago, she allowed me to wash her hair, put curls in it and I even apply some make up. She washed her bottom that day and we changed her clothes. She has been in those close for 3 weeks now.
What can I do? People say hire someone. Ha! We are very close to putting her into a nursing home and I tried to have that conversation with her, but she shakes her fist at me and says, "I won't go."
Her dementia is by stroke. She is not getting better but she is also not getting worse. She is suspended somewhere in the middle. She is fine so long as you do not mention ANY TYPE OF HYGIENE!
I am so tired of worrying about this...