My Mom will not go to the doctors. What can I do?

Tell your Mom that it is required that she see her primary doctor at least once a year [or every 6 months] or her health insurance would be canceled [that won't happen but it might jump start her to going to her doctor].

My mother refused to see the doctor, too. I lied. Told her the appointment was for me, that i did not want to go alone. When we got there the doc spoke to me so i couod fill him in. Then, he called her in. Mad, yes she was! But, it allowed the doc to see how bad she was. He put her on meds and the next appointment was much easier.
Get her in NOW! Don't wait for her to agree. Time passes, they get worse. My best to you!

She clearly has either Demenia or a health problem that is that is causing her behavior. Come up with an idea that will get her to the doctor. Be sure to communicate with the doctor first, so he or she will know what's up. Take her at the time of day her symptoms are most obvious. My mom could act fairly normal in the morning, by three in the afternoon she was a mess. If he tells her she needs to be in an ALF or have full time care, she will hate it but likely believe the doc. Her generation has more respect for doctors. They use to make house calls and weren't millionaires!

When you do manage to get her to the doctor don't be surprised if she puts on a great face and snows everyone. It's called "show timing" and is quite common. I would make a list or note for the doctor and slip it to him for reference. This alleviated the embarrassment of talking about her as if she were a child or not in the room. Tread lightly.

I agree and has been my tactic to tell mom as late as possible. There is no need to give her extra time of anxiety and if your mom is only going to forget, it doesn't pay. I also say to her the dr isn't going to do much, she only needs to see your face to continue your prescription. It takes the focus off of my mom and reduces some fear. Hope this helps

Suggest going to lunch with mom and then make a doctor's appointment. Then when you pick her up, "Oh, let's just stop here for a sec" at the doctor's, and get her in for that appointment.

I called my mother's doctor and explained my concerns regarding my mother. I asked the doctor not to mention the phone call to her and that next time she comes in to discretely suggest a routine memory test.
My mother constantly fights to avoid doctor's appt's, I usually just let her carry on, but all the while reassure her gently that it's just a check up. After the appt's she always comments "that wasn't so bad". I hope this helps a little. All the best.

I would make the appointment but not tell her until the last minute.

Since she won't know where she is going, lie, and get her diagnosed, and then get help for her! She should not be alone without supervision.

Check for Urinary Tract Infection ! This can masquerade as dementia ! (It can still be dementia...but check first.) Can also be : dehydration, or a vascular issue. Get her to her doc asap. Can be something simple or alarming. Please do not delay. (Been there done that SEVERAL times with my Mom.) Listen to Heidi73's action plan- good idea.