Dad won't let ANYONE confront her on faking or call 911 to have dr's confront her (cuz she'll get better).. I've spent Friday thru Sunday afternoon being called off and on all day and at 1 and 2 in the morning to help dad get her to the bathroom, just to clean her and the floor because I didn't get there fast enough so she wet herself. I finally got sick of her manipulations and told her if she wasn't better by Monday morning I WAS calling an ambulance AND I was canceling our trip to the beach the end of the month,.. low an behold, Monday she could talk, walk and feed herself again, but wanted to know if I could come wash her hair and give her a sponge bath "so your dad won't have to".. and thats part of it, she knows I'll do things to keep dad from doing them .. if he'd just let her sit in her own pee or not bring her- her pepsi and candy bars (that she fully admits she's sooo addicted to that she can still eat and drink them " but with difficulty" while having her strokes) she'd soon learn there are consequences to her "strokes"
He KNOWS she's faking!! Or he'd call 911 at the first signs of her slurred speech and turning limp as a rag doll, but he won't confront her or let me or anyone else confront her... I don't understand why!!?!!
I'm soo sick of her manipulations !! And I hate that dad would rather expect me to play along and care for her like she's completely helpless for days on end unless I have something to hang over her head like I did this time by saying I wouldn't take her to the beach as planned.
Any ideas or suggestions? I can't just leave dad to deal with her, it's sad to say, but she's done it before, she'll let dad run himself ragged until he's sick, then say if I just loved HER enough to help him take care of HER during her "latest stroke recovery" he wouldn't be sick... I can't do that to my dad again, AND SHE KNOWS IT!
It's a catch 22 - I just don't know what to do.. they can't afford and I can't afford to call an ambulance every time single time she pulls this or I would -then dad couldn't stop me from saying "The DR say's theres nothing wrong with you so knock it off!! But thats not an option because when the dr's find nothing wrong we have to pay the $300 ambulance ride
Anyone else dealing with this?... I'm really glad I found this board.. I needed very- very badly to vent, thank you for leting me.