Mom is 81. I had to nicely tell her that she's wearing dirty clothes to bed, and 'my mom' always told me to wear my clean pj's to bed. I understand she lives alone, and if she's not going anywhere, what's the sense of changing clothes, somewhat, but in this instance, she wore the same clothes to the cemetery, and two days afterwards, PLUS wearing them to bed. I had to shame her somewhat. It gets hard, because I don't want to yell at her! Let me finish by saying she lives alone.
I do step in if we are going out. Especially if she puts her bra or panties on after everything else.
Once I caught her trying to get into the car just wearing a blouse and her house shoes. I really stepped in on that one.
Most of the time I let her be. She bathes frequently. So I figure as long as she is comfortable let her be. After all I will be the one paying the bill not Nosey Nellie next to us.
I just need to get her to a beauty parlor to get her hair done.
When i got to the age of needing a bra my mother obtained one from goodness knows where. it certainly was not the lingerie dept as it was far too big. She instructed me to put it on OVER my undershirt. Even i knew better than that. No wonder i left home at 16 when she said she could not longer afford to keep me. She did however continue to recieve child support from my Dad till I was 21 and I never saw a penny of that. Was this the dysfunctional thread?