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Mother was supposed to quit smoking before she moved in but did not. She now smokes outside the house but up against the house where the smoke can still come in the house. Last night my sister came back inside my mother's living area and found my mother smoking in the bathroom. My sister does not know how to set that boundary.

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P.S. And sister needs to be ready to take action if mother smokes inside again. Otherwise it's just an empty threat and mother will continue to take advantage of your sister.
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Where is she getting the cigarettes? "Stop the supply" would be my first suggestion. Get her a stop-smoking patch system from her doctor would be another. Every time you catch her smoking, take her pack. That'll make every cigarette she smokes cost about $7.00. That's be enough for ME to give it up. Buy a powerful commercial smoke eater out of mom's money would be another.

If your sis tries these things, tries talking to her about what she's risking by smoking in her home -- up to and including her having to leave -- then she's done all she can do. Then it's up to sis to decide if she wants her gone.
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Not knowing a thing about your mom I would say that your sister give her an ultimatum: either the smoking goes or she does. Smoking outside is fine, away from the house. But the next time mother smokes inside she needs to arrange for a new place to live. Mother is a guest in sister's home and needs to respect your sister's wishes. And asking mother to smoke outside isn't an unreasonable request.
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I am always amazed that some smokers believe if you hide behind a door that no one will know you are smoking :P

I heard tobacco smoking is a very powerful addiction which is difficult to quit, especially for women. If you take away the cigarettes, you will need to find something to substitute.

People who smoke claim it makes them feel calmer, which is correct, but the calming doesn't come from the tobacco itself, one can also get that same deep breathing in and exhaling using a short soda straw. Exercise can give the same calmness, too. If mom is mobile, get her walking. The more walking she does, the better she will feel and hopefully give up smoking.
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Why is mom living there? Even her hair and clothes are going to smell of smoke.

I think it is too late, now. Mom is there and is going to do what she wants to do. But, assisted living, etc. isn't going to allow her to smoke, either.
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In light of your update, I would insist she buy a commercial grade smoke eater and let her smoke in her space.
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I am the Sis mentioned above. Before we made the final call on building the house to accommodate mom, she, my husband, and myself sat down and discussed several issues. The main one was her smoking. She agreed to quit and tried the first two weeks but felt it was too hard. I conceded that maybe I needed to accept she would not quit but asked her at a minimum to stay outside. My husband and I are trying very hard to give her some leeway by sitting right outside the door or in the garage but catching her in the house really pushed my buttons. Not to mention she leaves cig butts around the yard and her little smoking chair is piled up with butts.

Also while I am letting it out....I grew up with both parents smoking a pack a day in the house my whole life. I more than HATE the smell of smoke even a passing whiff. It makes my stomach turn!

I can not threaten to kick her out but I struggle with how to keep that horrible smell out of my house. In addition, I have a 7 year old who is struggling with the whole smoking concept too. Smoking is bad by Grandmommy smokes a pack a day.
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There are a couple of companies that make smoke alarms for cigarette smoking. Install one in the bathroom [as long as the steam from the shower doesn't set it off]... try it out before installing.
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There's no way I'd let mom smoke unsupervised with oxygen being administered. It MUST-MUST-MUST be removed from her nose when she is smoking. To do otherwise is to risk third-degree burns on her head, neck and face. This is no joke.

Changes the whole ballgame. The next time your sister catches her with a cigarette, call the coppers. They'll put the fear of God in her. They may even haul her away since she's endangering the whole house.
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Jules, good for you for coming on line. I see now that she only gets oxygen at night. Phew!!!

Note: your garage will positively REEK from cigarette smoke. I guess you have to weigh what a hard stance is going to cost you in terms of your relationship with mom and whether or not you're willing to go to war over it. Weigh that. It's a decision only you can make. Seems like you've been making all the concessions, though....? You might point that out to her.

In the end? I'd rather she be smoking "in the open" than hiding in a closet. Too much danger of fire. As your mom begins a descent into dementia (which, if she lives long enough, no doubt she will) this problem will get worse.

"The Patch" -- demand she give it a try. Hard to believe she'd be needing oxygen and smoking. Tough addiction.
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