It's been a LONG road! (We tried the first time in 2022.) We have found two different memory care facilities, and will be moving her into the first one within the month. Once a bed becomes available in the second facility (the nicer of the two), we'll transfer her. I'm beyond grateful that she doesn't have to share a room in either place, just a bathroom in one of them.
Anyway, I just wanted to thank you all for being here to walk me through all of it, and talk me down off the ledge more times than I can count! And I wanted to encourage anyone else trying to get approval. It's so hard! Get help with it if you have the resources. Once your LO gets approved the caseworker will take a load off of your shoulders to help. Hang in there!
Edited bcuz I don't know if I posted it on the correct board. :( Apologies if I didn't.
One bit of advice. If you pay the facility the personal allowance monthly it will not be refunded if not used. Do spend her monthly personal allowance. Hair cuts, Clothing, special treats. I pay the monthly and submit receipts for reimbursement.
Keep in mind that there is a high probability that your State will do an annual renewal for her eligibility. If that happens, it will want to see the last 2-4 months of all her bank statements as of the renewal letter date and will want to again see some items initially submitted (like her life insurance policy, funeral / burial policy) once again. Plus the letter from SSA and any retirement's she gets that state benefit pay out to her for the new year.
They told me we would have to go through the process annually, so fingers crossed they'll give up on that within a few years, lol! Our oldest son receives SSI and we went through that with him. Thankfully, they no longer require it for him.
Oh, that's amazing! So far Mom's case worker has been like that. It's such a freeing feeling!
Yikes, that's a nightmare!
The one thing I now do is keep 5 years of my bank Statements. My Mom had done the same thing.
No roommate is definitely something to appreciate. My dad's roommate was hard of hearing so had his TV blaring all the time. When we'd come visit and start talking (we had to yell over roommate's tv), he'd turn it up even more. We'd leave his room to visit when dad was still able to sit in his wheelchair but eventually he was bed ridden. Between that and the roommate insisting on having their bedroom door closed all the time, it was terrible.
What was the hardest part of that process? Was it because she was borderline financially qualified? My MIL had 0 cash and assets, and received only $900ish a month in SSI so her app and approval process seemed "easy". I guess her case was a no brainer.
You may have to reapply at the 1 year anniversary like we did. Eventually they stop requiring it.
It looks like we need to pay out of pocket for August 2025 but at this point I don’t care, just glad he’s back on.
A lot of stress.