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It's been a LONG road! (We tried the first time in 2022.) We have found two different memory care facilities, and will be moving her into the first one within the month. Once a bed becomes available in the second facility (the nicer of the two), we'll transfer her. I'm beyond grateful that she doesn't have to share a room in either place, just a bathroom in one of them.
Anyway, I just wanted to thank you all for being here to walk me through all of it, and talk me down off the ledge more times than I can count! And I wanted to encourage anyone else trying to get approval. It's so hard! Get help with it if you have the resources. Once your LO gets approved the caseworker will take a load off of your shoulders to help. Hang in there!
Edited bcuz I don't know if I posted it on the correct board. :( Apologies if I didn't.

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Congratulations. I know what a relief that feels like.

One bit of advice. If you pay the facility the personal allowance monthly it will not be refunded if not used. Do spend her monthly personal allowance. Hair cuts, Clothing, special treats. I pay the monthly and submit receipts for reimbursement.
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So happy for you Stardust!

Keep in mind that there is a high probability that your State will do an annual renewal for her eligibility. If that happens, it will want to see the last 2-4 months of all her bank statements as of the renewal letter date and will want to again see some items initially submitted (like her life insurance policy, funeral / burial policy) once again. Plus the letter from SSA and any retirement's she gets that state benefit pay out to her for the new year.
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Oh, that's great!!! It is SO stressful! :(
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Thank you so much! :)
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I think part of it was just not having a clue what I was doing, and what they wanted. :( The attitude of every single rep (that's not the right word but I can't think of it) with Medicaid had the attitude of "Oh, there's no way in hell your LO will qualify, but this is the information we need." And they all had that attitude all through the process, up until the day she qualified. It was maddening!

They told me we would have to go through the process annually, so fingers crossed they'll give up on that within a few years, lol! Our oldest son receives SSI and we went through that with him. Thankfully, they no longer require it for him.
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Thank you!

Oh, that's amazing! So far Mom's case worker has been like that. It's such a freeing feeling!
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Thank you! :)

Yikes, that's a nightmare!
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Ooh, good to know! Thank you JoAnn!
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Like Geatonmy Moms application went smoothly. She made under the income limit and had no assets other than what she had to pay for her AL. The last 20k went for her to pay privately to her LTC facility then right into Medicaid. But it is work getting everything together.

The one thing I now do is keep 5 years of my bank Statements. My Mom had done the same thing.
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Always a relief to get to this point! Congrats
No roommate is definitely something to appreciate. My dad's roommate was hard of hearing so had his TV blaring all the time. When we'd come visit and start talking (we had to yell over roommate's tv), he'd turn it up even more. We'd leave his room to visit when dad was still able to sit in his wheelchair but eventually he was bed ridden. Between that and the roommate insisting on having their bedroom door closed all the time, it was terrible.
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So glad the approval came through! And sorry it’s been such a pain. My family was blessed that mom’s nursing home had a wonderful business manager who was well versed in all aspects of Medicaid. She walked us through the process without charge and made the approval not seem bad. Hope the move goes well, you’ve done well ensuring she’s safe and cared for, no one could ask for better
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That's great!

What was the hardest part of that process? Was it because she was borderline financially qualified? My MIL had 0 cash and assets, and received only $900ish a month in SSI so her app and approval process seemed "easy". I guess her case was a no brainer.

You may have to reapply at the 1 year anniversary like we did. Eventually they stop requiring it.
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I'm very relieved for you. I hope the transition goes as smoothly as possible. Thanks for sharing the good news.
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I’m so happy for you. I had a bit of good news yesterday myself. We had to reapply for Medicaid because my father inherited money from my mother’s estate and he needed to spend down. . We got word he was back on Medicaid effective September 1, 2025.

It looks like we need to pay out of pocket for August 2025 but at this point I don’t care, just glad he’s back on.

A lot of stress.
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